With the holiday season around the corner, kicking off with Halloween next week, I am exploring all things lions, ghosts, and … vamps oh my!
We’ve all heard the term “energy vampire” - the idea that certain people or environments can drain our energy, leaving us feeling depleted. After coming off of retreat and many live events, I am pondering this.
Let’s pause for a moment and reflect as we move into a busy season: Is this really a supportive way to frame a situation?
The idea of labeling someone as an “energy vampire” can create an us-versus-them mentality. In truth, if we’re noticing energy drainers in our lives, it can be because there’s something in ourselves that’s reflecting or mirroring that dynamic. So rather than thinking about “protecting” ourselves from someone or something, what if we shifted our perspective toward maintaining high vibes and energetic clarity?
What if we could perceive that, when we’re in alignment, we don’t need protection?
It’s important to remember that when our own energy is aligned and vibrating at a high level, we don’t really need to “protect” ourselves in the traditional sense. Our aura naturally radiates strength, clarity, and light. When we’re fully grounded and operating from our authentic truth, we naturally set energetic boundaries without effort. Think of it as a force field of love, confidence, and inner peace that effortlessly shields you from lower vibrations.
Today’s invitation is to release the “Energy Vampire” mindset for this season, and just in time for Halloween!
Labeling someone as an “energy vampire” may imply that others have power over us, but the truth is, no one can deplete our energy unless we allow it. It’s often our own disconnection from our higher self or our own unaddressed patterns that create the sense of depletion. Instead of seeing the situation as someone else “taking” from us, we can use this as an invitation to notice what’s being reflected back to us. It can be helpful to reflect…
Am I in a state of imbalance?
Am I lacking self-care or not setting clear emotional boundaries?
This shift in perspective empowers us. It reminds us that we have control over our own energy and that we can take responsibility for it.
While raising our vibration is the key to maintaining energetic balance, there are still some practical tools that can support this process:
One of the simplest ways to stay in alignment is by grounding yourself daily. Take five minutes each morning to sit quietly, close your eyes, and visualize roots extending from your feet deep into the earth. Breathe slowly and deeply, feeling the energy of the earth rise up to nourish and stablize you.
Speak positive affirmations that reinforce your energy field. Some examples include: “My energy is pure and clear”, “I radiate light and love”, and “I honor and protect my own energy.” These affirmations help shift your focus from fear or defensiveness to confidence and peace.
While we don’t need protection, crystals like black tourmaline, hematite, or smoky quartz can be great allies for maintaining grounding and clarity, especially in environments that feel chaotic or overwhelming. Carrying or wearing healing stones serves as a gentle reminder to stay connected to your own energy.
Setting boundaries doesn’t have to be an act of resistance or defense. Instead, it can be a clear, loving act that honors both yourself and others. Practice saying “no” when you need to, and recognize that your time and energy are sacred. Honouring your limits allows you to give and receive from a place of fullness, rather than depletion.
When you start to feel drained, pause and reflect on where your energy might be leaking. Is there an unhealed wound or unresolved emotion within you that needs attention? Journal or meditate on this and see what comes up.
AND don’t forget as I mentioned earlier in the month, my favorite flower essence company, LotusWei, is having a 21% off sale this month with the code “Dragon”! If you want a tactile tool, check out their Luminous Chi for Energetic Reinforcement and Freedom to Thrive! If you’ve ever felt your energy being drained (especially from things like “energy vampires”), Luminous Chi is the essence to reach for. This has given me energetic reinforcement and a freedom to thrive even in challenging situations. I apply it over my body, take it internally, or use it in ritual. It helps support me to make physical contact with my space—setting energetic boundaries with ease and grace.
No matter what you do, intend for that higher vibe! By maintaining our own energetic clarity and alignment, we shift from a mindset of needing protection to one of empowerment. Instead of viewing the world as full of “energy vampires,” we can view it as a mirror, always showing us where we can heal, grow, and take responsibility for our own energy.
The next time you feel your energy wavering, rather than blaming the external, ask yourself: What within me needs tending?
When we keep our vibes high, our aura shines so brightly that nothing can dim our light.
Sending grounding high vibes,
Alara
